Are You Too Overwhelmed to Read About Overwhelm?
I think overwhelm is in the air. Seems most of my business coaching clients are creating/experiencing some form of overwhelm lately. Breakdowns and challenges too. My running water was out for a week as our well pump wasn’t working. My girlfriend broke her collar bone in a nasty bike accident, etc. Sometimes life is just full of stress and pressure.
Perhaps we unconsciously create overwhelm and challenges so that we can learn grace under pressure.
One thing is becoming more clear to me…overwhelm is a state of mind and a way of being. It is NOT a set of circumstances. It is resistance to what is. It is NOT loving what is.
When things get tough. When you have an extra helping of challenges or fear inducing opportunities on your plate, whether you chose them or not, how do you respond? By shutting down? By freezing up? By complaining? By being a victim? By rushing? By letting go of the things that support you the most, such as eating well, doing yoga, meditating, or walking in the forest?
Or, do you respond by taking a deep breath and tapping into your inner strength? Do you respond by choosing to trust yourself and trust life? Are you willing to let some things go, accept reality, and even LOVE reality? Can you love your full plate? Can you love your full schedule? Can you find a peaceful center when dealing with things that normally seduce you into worrying?
Can you love pressure and respond appropriately?
Can you find the right question to ask yourself? Tony Robbins recommends these questions when faced with a big problem:
1. What is great about this problem?
2. What is not perfect yet?
3. What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it?
4. What am I willing to no longer do to make it the way I want it?
5. How can I enjoy the process while I do what is necessary to make it the way I want it?
The idea is to focus on solution rather than the problem itself.
Byron Katie would say there are no problems. Calling something a problem is simply putting a label on it that makes it wrong.
It is what it is.
Big hug to all of us that are experiencing overwhelm, fear, stress, and pressure.
You’re up to the challenge… whatever it is.
---Ryan Eliason is a professional life and business coach with a proven track record of business success. His small business clients have frequently doubled or tripled their incomes, increased their positive impact, and simultaneously improved their lifestyles. Subscribe to this blog. Download your FREE audio seminar and workbook on How To Have The Best Year of Your Business and Your Life.
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I totally love this article. It is only too true. Thanks for the great reminder
Nice post, Ryan. I sooo relate to the headline. And, I love the Tony Robbins questions. I will use those the next time I’m feeling overwhelmed (in 5 minutes?). =) Thank you for writing this.
Yes all true, glad I read it. So many interesting titles in the sidebar, oh dear will have to come back and check them out as got to do some work!